He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

We all know of the game, taking a daisy, and plucking the petals one by one, saying “he loves me” then “he loves me not” with the alternating petals.  Whichever you are saying with the last petal signifies whether or not you are loved.  And this is called the daisy oracle.  But in France, there aren’t just two possibilities, there are five: he loves me a little – very much – passionately – madly – not at all.

I commented to a French friend, Jean Paul, that it seemed the French were indeed more romantic, with four out of five chances to be loved.  He did not agree, saying no, it always boils down to the same thing – you are loved or you are not.

In Germany in 1203, someone wrote of using a blade of grass to determine if his lady loved him.  He would measure the blade of grass with thumb and index finger grasping it, alternating right and left hand, saying “she does love me” then “she does not love me.”   Again, the statement made with the last measurement determined whether he was loved.

In 1471 a German nun called the daisies “plucking flowers” and says a man wore the flower with one or two petals remaining when he had doubts if his love truly loved him.

But what does a man desire?  What a man desires is unfailing love.  (Prov. 19:22)  But even if the last petal is plucked while saying “She loves me,” a man is not guaranteed by the daisy oracle of love at all, much less of unfailing love.  Unfailing love – that surely would be an example of Best Love.  And God is the best example of unfailing love, as we know from His Word that he truly loves us.  He even demonstrated that fact by action – This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.  (I John 3:16)

But do we look at God’s Love as a daisy love?  Does it depend on our circumstances?  When a loved one dies, do we pluck a petal saying “He doesn’t love me?”  Then, when we get a promotion and a raise, do we pluck a petal saying “He loves me?”  What about when the doctor tells us we have cancer, and life will be shorter than we want?  No, what we must learn is that God’s daisy oracle doesn’t have five romantic choices, it doesn’t have two possibilities.  The Best Love daisy oracle has many petals, but each petal carries a “He loves me.”

With any love, what a person wants is a relationship, a shared love, a Good Love that can blossom into Better Love.  How can we demonstrate our reciprocal love for God?  Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.  (I John 4:11)  Make a decision, take a choice, to love someone today, and demonstrate it with action.

About Mark Gredler

I want to move from Good Love to Better Love, share it, and share the Best Love of God. I like ancient and medieval history, especially of Spain. I like photographing Spanish fiestas, and visiting Romanesque churches, from the 11th to 13th centuries. I enjoy traveling, seeing new places, meeting new friends, taking photographs of that, and want to write more about it all.
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