The last several weeks I have mentioned several times the importance of remembering with Good Love. Back in May I talked about the fact that our basic problem is that our hearts are deceitful. Since we want to follow our hearts, and the heart’s priority is to be happy, right now, we often make choices to take a path that ends in an undesired destination. We can find some short term happiness yet later have long term regrets.
Well, since our memories are important to Good Love, we of course want Good Memories. And we always have a choice of what we want to remember and what we allow our minds to dwell on. As I shared two weeks ago, there is a Spanish adage that says “water once passed, does not move the mill,” and it means to not cry over spilt milk. But that adage can also carry the sense of a missed opportunity, another kind of regret.
When we remember our Good Love and Better Love experiences, do we concentrate on the shared secrets, the shared humor, the common interests, the shared encouragement and the shared gratitude? Or do we end up focusing on the missed opportunities to share Good and Better Love, on the regrets, things we would do differently? Part of the answer is found in a verse I shared while talking about encouragement, back last December: But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
We have to put the past, the mistakes, the regrets behind us, and strain toward what is ahead, which includes remembering the Good and Better Love we have indeed shared. An even more important part of this is that being successful at looking forward requires us to strive to have a positive attitude, to be optimistic. Yesterday I returned home from driving almost 3000 miles with my sister to celebrate the life of David Gredler, to meet, visit, and share with cousins we hadn’t seen for over 40 years, and share from the life of Charles Gredler.
On the trip we were both able to visit with high school classmates, search for the houses of our grandmother and her patron, visit the church she ministered on Cape Cod for years, and search for the grave of our grandfather. We had lunch one day at the Optimist Café, to share some excellent food and some optimism as well. The photo above is the back of their t-shirt, with an appropriate slogan. With the receipts, we were provided with thoughts for the day as well: “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference,” “It isn’t our position, But our disposition, That makes us happy,” and “Every day may not be good, but there is something good in everyday.”
I think there are two major parts to straining toward what is ahead. One is to have a good attitude and be optimistic. But another important part is to not be foolish and senseless, that is to see with our eyes and hear with our ears.
The photo at the top of this post is of a Cape Cod bed and breakfast named “Ashley Manor.” Since one of my granddaughters’ name is Ashley, I thought I would share that photo with everyone. I want her to see, to hear, to look forward, and to learn how to put the past behind her – just as I wish that for all of us.