What is called the Daisy Oracle, the game of he loves me, he loves me not, goes back to at least the 13th century. Back in June I talked about some of the history of this, and the fact that in France there are five possibilities to the Daisy Oracle – he loves me a little – very much – passionately – madly – not at all. I thought I would share a couple old French post cards of the Daisy Oracle.
Now these cards are from a company named DIX, their card number 823, and it appears that there were at least five cards in this series. The card on the left is 823/1 and the one on the right is 823/5. Here is the English of what the text on each card says:
The Daisy Oracle The Daisy Oracle
What does the daisy say? Or your important secret,
I love you dearly! Pretty daisy,
And, without losing a moment, Our hearts know it
I will prove it to you soon. And that is: a madness.
Here is a six-sided silver stick pin, with five possibilities for love, which closely align with the French Daisy Oracle: he loves me, a little, much, passionately, he loves me not. If you replace the simple “he loves me” with “madly,” you have the five possibilities of the modern French version. The sixth side has a daisy, and all the words are in English!
Now an oracle is usually a person that a deity speaks through, to give advice. Maybe the idea behind the Daisy Oracle was that God, or maybe Mother Nature, would speak to you through the daisy to let you know how your beloved felt about you. But really, what is more important is how we love the other person. And it’s not really a matter of an oracle, or a game, or a superstition. It’s not really even a matter of our feelings or emotions, nor a matter or where our heart is leading us (after all, the heart is deceitful). What is the bottom line of how we love another?
How we love someone is first and last of all a decision, it is a choice we make. And its not a one-time decision. If we want to maintain our love for another, we have to decide frequently to commit to that love. Remember, commitment was one of the three parts to Sternberg’s triangle. If we want to frequently move from Good Love to Better Love, we have to frequently express gratitude and give encouragement. If we want to take two steps forward after we take a step backwards (the key to Good Love), we have to decide to ask forgiveness, and we have to decide to look forwards and not backwards.
Maybe most important, when we choose to not think about it, not examine where we are and where we want to go, that IS a choice, that IS a decision. That is a decision to stay in a rut, settle for the mediocre, to ignore all possibilities for better or improvement.
We really don’t need an oracle – not a flower anyway. If God had a flower to speak to us through, every petal would say “He loves us.” There are not any other possibilities. He loves us all, every one, unconditionally. And He demonstrated His love through His Son. This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. I John 3:16.
How can we lay down our lives for our brothers? It doesn’t mean we have to die for them, to do what we ought to do. No, for me, it means I need to be willing to lay down some of the things that are important, such as time and money, and be willing to share those with the people I love. As I said, for me, selfish is the root of all evil. What about you? What is important to you, and what do you need to share? Most important, what decisions are you making, and are you giving them full consideration?
Next week I’ll talk some more about selfishness, and I’ll share another old French postcard.